Recently, I had the chance to step back onto the baseball field—not as a player or a physical therapist, but as a Pop-Pop. I’ve been asked to occasionally assist with my 5-year-old grandson’s t-ball team, and to be honest, I jumped at the opportunity. Having coached baseball at all levels—from t-ball to American Legion—I was more than ready to dust off the glove and join in.
Of course, my wife quickly reminded me to take a step back and let the children’s parents lead the way. Fair enough. But being out there again got me thinking about the language we hear so often in youth sports—the classic “coach speak” that’s been passed down through generations.
Who hasn’t heard “Shake it off” or “Walk it off”? These all-purpose phrases are meant to encourage toughness, but they often overlook the fact that a real injury might be brewing. As a physical therapist, I’ve seen firsthand how seemingly small tweaks can turn into bigger issues when brushed aside.
Then there’s the popular, “It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.” It’s a nice sentiment, but let’s be honest—most coaches and players feel the sting of a loss, no matter how gracefully the message is delivered.
And perhaps the most problematic phrase of all: “You throw like a girl.” It’s a saying that cuts deep—meant to shame and belittle. But it’s time we retire this one for good. Our language on the field matters. It shapes how young athletes view themselves and others. Girls shouldn’t be made to feel inferior, and boys shouldn’t be taught that anything “like a girl” is something to be avoided.
As I stood on the sidelines of that t-ball game, I was reminded not just of the joy of the sport, but of the responsibility that comes with being a coach—or even just a Pop-Pop helping out. The words we use, the encouragement we give, and the way we model behavior—these things last longer than any win or loss.
At Stoneking Physical Therapy and Wellness Center, we understand the impact that early injuries—and early encouragement—can have on a person’s development, both physically and emotionally. Whether it’s helping young athletes recover from a strain, guiding adults through injury rehab, or supporting seniors in staying strong and active, our team brings experience, compassion, and care to every treatment plan with a focus on building strength, resilience, and confidence.
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Stoneking Physical Therapy and Wellness Center offers top rated physical therapy in Ewing New Jersey. All of our professional staff are certified members of the American Physical Therapy Association. The APTA is a national organization representing over 70,000 physical therapists, physical therapist assistants, and students. Our Ewing Physical Therapy office is located in central northern southern New Jersey and we are a local physical therapist to many.